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[annathyst]

God damnit, I still feel like shit. I shouldn't have even asked her, I shouldn't have put her through the pain of saying no - she -really- doesn't want to hurt me.
Damnit damnit. I need to go kick myself.

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[alexpgp.livejournal.com]

Don't go beating yourself up for asking a question. And most certainly don't beat yourself up for what you imagine to be a painful experience on the part of the person being asked. You start believing that self-talk and you'll end up never talking to anyone ever again. :^)

Cheers...

[duinlas.livejournal.com]

Heh.

After a dozen roses, 40 dollars worth of perfume, 20 dollars worth of handmade cards, 15 dollars worth of some sort of hand creme, and several letters stuffed in the toe of Nicole's shoe, she finally wrote back saying she was thankful for the roses, but just wanted to be friends.

I read it before I left the parking lot, so on my way out, I took the curb a bit too close, went up, went down, thought I had smashed the car. Drove back to the office freaked out about a huge hole int he right rear bumper.

Turns out it was all okay.

And you know what... I still love that girl to this day. Doesn't matter what happened, she didn't change how we saw eachother, she probably never had anyone ELSE give her what I did, or even be willing to.

I did it because I loved her. That's what this world is all about. Love. It's nice to know you didn't want her to be uncomfortable, but she knows how you feel, maybe she doesn't have relationships at all.

Never think the world is against you, because it's not. There are ups and downs for everything, and finding a partner to share the rest of your life with is no small task. It's certainly not one that anyone would say would be easy.

[duien.livejournal.com]

hmm...my take on this...

don't worry about having asked her. even if she didn't want to have to say no, she probably will really appreciate it not being up in the air anymore. it's almost always better to know than to wonder.

i've been in similar situations...on both sides, really. and...it's ok. it'll all turn out for the best. at least you both know what the other is thinking.

but, from having been in similar situations, i know this won't make much of a difference...
heh.

well, best of luck in getting this out of your system. of whatever it is you need to do... :)

[ellie.livejournal.com]

You needed to know and now you do. Yeah, it hurts alot. But isn't knowing better then not knowing? I always get this pit in my tummy, this longing, I get easily distracted and pretty short with people when I don't know if someone loves me back.
Of course, with some hindsight, I wouldn't give up those moments of loving that person even though he didn't feel the same way. Story of my life, time and time again, and I wouldn't have it any other way.